Compassionate detachment allows me to hold space for my clients as they explore their own values without imposing an agenda or attachment to specific outcomes. This open-minded wonder fosters curiosity, encouraging clients to gain an outside perspective and examine their experiences from multiple angles. By asking questions like “What’s showing up for you?” and testing hypotheses based on how I experience the client—something they cannot do for themselves—I help them uncover new insights. Ultimately, it takes courage to hold this space, creating a safe environment for deep self-exploration and growth.
Balance is essential
I’ve seen how hands-off approaches can fuel hate speech and misinformation. Without professional moderation, toxicity thrives, and those with harmful intent exploit the system. I think that the key isn’t censorship, it’s learning from past failures and building moderation frameworks that are transparent, adaptive, and fair.
Social media has become the public square of the 21st century, the space where people "spray and pray," hoping their voices are heard. Free speech is vital to a healthy democracy, but without thoughtful content moderation, the loudest and most harmful voices can drown out everyone else.
Let's speak about conditioning
c/o University of the Pacific
Women in many Western societies are conditioned to:
- Be grateful
- Know their place
- Be patient
- Take what's offered
- Seek validation
These messages shape careers, leadership journeys, and confidence levels. They influence how women negotiate, advocate for themselves, and take up space in the world. I think conditioning can be unlearned. Boldness can be built and systems can be challenged. This month, beyond celebrating achievements, let’s also reflect on what still needs to change. Let’s empower, uplift, and dismantle the barriers, both internal and external.
Send me an e-mail and let me know which one piece of conditioning you have had to unlearn.
Bring your team together
The best way to deepen your understanding of a subject is to teach it. When you share your knowledge, you not only reinforce what you already know but also gain new insights through discussion, questions, and different perspectives. I think teaching forces you to articulate concepts clearly, making your grasp of the topic even stronger. Empowering others in this way doesn’t just build their confidence and skills; it also strengthens your own leadership and adaptability. After all, learning is a two-way street, and when you give others the space to grow, you often end up learning just as much from them in return.
““A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd.” ”
There is enough
Meritocracy assumes a level playing field, but structural inequalities (e.g., access to education, networking, and mentorship) mean some groups start with disadvantages. Research shows that unconscious biases influence hiring, promotions, and leadership opportunities. The big question is would DEIB (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging) initiatives be necessary if true meritocracy—where individuals are evaluated and rewarded solely based on their abilities, performance, and contributions—worked perfectly?
““Even after all this time the sun never says to the earth, “You owe me.”
Look what happens with a love like that, it lights the whole sky.””
Ramadan Mubarak
I would like to extend my warmest wishes to everyone around the world who is celebrating the holy month of Ramadan.
An incredible celestial event
This evening, just after sunset, seven planets — Saturn, Mercury, Neptune, Venus, Uranus, Jupiter, and Mars — will align in the sky. This is an extremely rare planetary alignment and the next time this happens will be in 2040.
Masculinity debate
My journey of healing and growth as a man isn’t bound by society’s narrow definitions of people who look like me, because those definitions have always been limiting. I was raised in a world that measures masculinity by culture’s rigid standards, where strength is defined by the ability to provide, protect, and procreate. When a man excels in these areas, he is granted power, and with power comes privilege. I think true masculinity, true strength, goes beyond these checkboxes, it lies in the courage to redefine ourselves on our own terms. Where displaying kindness and vulnerability should not be seen as weakness.
Tonight, the Brotherhood for Professionals of Color (BPoC) will have our long-awaited panel debate: “Redefining Masculinity: Pathways & Perspectives” at the Nordea HQ in Copenhagen.
Stay right there
Confidence and focus are like muscles, and they both need constant maintenance. Even the most self-assured person can start a downward spiral when faced with an unexpected setback at work or in life. Likewise, being highly goal-oriented doesn’t make you immune to distractions and unforeseen challenges can leave you feeling scattered and overwhelmed. I think to stay grounded, you must continuously exercise these mental muscles through self-regulation, ensuring that setbacks don’t derail your progress.
Easy to consume
I want my website to be crystal clear and easy to understand for everyone who visits. Can you tell me if it answers these questions?
Do you understand what I do?
Is it clear how I can help solve your problem?
Do you see the benefits of working with me?
Is it easy to know how to get in touch?
Venus in Næstved
““Being a stereotype - gives you something to break.””
Venus Williams was in Næstved yesterday to promote her new book, “Strive: 8 Steps to Find Your Awesome” and my friend, Adama did an exceptional job as the moderator. Venus is kind and humble with a wonderful sense of humour. Many thanks to ProWoc (Professional Women of Colour) for the invitation.
What are you capable of?
True leadership isn’t about micromanaging every detail, I think it’s about setting a clear vision and empowering others to find their own way forward. When you tell people exactly how to do something, you limit their creativity, their problem-solving abilities, and ultimately, their growth. But when you define the goal, provide the necessary resources, and step back, you create space for innovation and ownership.
Great leaders understand that trust is a catalyst for excellence. By relinquishing control over the "how," you invite people to take ownership of the process. You give them permission to experiment, fail, learn, and ultimately, deliver results that may far exceed your expectations. So, resist the urge to dictate every step, instead, inspire with clarity, support with confidence, and then stand back. You may just be amazed by what people can achieve when given the freedom to rise to the challenge.
Trust and safety
c/o LinkedIn
Trust and safety are essential in a coaching relationship because our brains are constantly scanning for perceived threats or rewards. The amygdala plays a crucial role in this process, as it interprets sensory data from our environment to anticipate potential outcomes. When a situation feels unsafe or uncertain, the amygdala triggers a stress response, which can hinder our ability to think clearly. In contrast, the prefrontal cortex—responsible for executive functions such as deep thinking, problem-solving, decision-making, and memory—operates most effectively in a psychologically safe environment. This is why creating trust and safety in coaching is vital; it allows the prefrontal cortex to function optimally, enabling meaningful reflection and growth.
New horizons
My father was a proud man, he was kind, considerate, and loving. I would describe him as a true patriarch, a hardworking individual who led by example. He had a gift for storytelling, effortlessly weaving Jamaican proverbs into his words, sharing wisdom, humour, and life lessons with those around him. Now, he rests with my mother and our ancestors.
Thank you, dad.
The funeral (part three)
My father had a deep connection to our ancestors and believed that those who passed before us left something within us, a timeless body of wisdom. In every community, certain individuals are chosen to access this spiritual knowledge. It was only after moving to Denmark that I began to understand the bridge between what the wise have long known and what the young are still striving to learn. There are lessons we have yet to experience, yet they are lessons that those before us have already navigated. My father’s legacy has been left in every life that he ever touched.
The funeral (part two)
““The winds that sometimes take something we love, are the same that bring us something we learn to love. Therefore, we should not cry about something that was taken from us, but, yes, love what we have been given. Because what is really ours is never gone forever.” ”
I ended my tribute with this beautiful and reflective quote from Bob Marley. It speaks to the cyclical nature of life—loss and gain, endings and new beginnings. It encourages gratitude and resilience, reminding us that what truly belongs to us, in essence, never really disappears. It served as a powerful anchor, exploring both loss and the lessons of love that remain.
The funeral
My father had no desire to play the fool, pretending he had all the answers to life's questions. Quite the contrary. So today, I begin with a tribute - an exploration and an exercise in self-reflection. In other words, I want to look back on my relationship with my father throughout his long and complicated life, with all its twists and turns.
Managing up
People who have completed extensive training on emotional intelligence often excel at saying the right thing at the right time. However, they may lack genuine emotional depth, creating an impression of emotional void despite having the right answers. This is similar to AI, which can generate appropriate emotional responses without actually experiencing feelings.
““The smart way to keep people passive and obedient is to strictly limit the spectrum of acceptable opinion, but allow very lively debate within that spectrum — even encourage the more critical and dissident views. That gives people the sense that there’s free thinking going on, while all the time the presuppositions of the system are being reinforced by the limits put on the range of the debate.””
Designing work for the future
Technology is playing a crucial role in increasing workforce participation among people with disabilities. I think to truly harness this potential, organisations must embrace purposeful design thinking and human-centered design to create inclusive workplaces that genuinely support diverse talent. But what happens after hiring? If your organisation has invested significant time and resources in integrating diverse employees, yet they feel unheard and overlooked—if they sense that the mainstream always takes priority—they may silently walk away. When that happens, you're back to square one. How is your organisation ensuring that diverse voices are not just present but truly valued?
A way of life
According to the teachings of the ancient Chinese master Lao-Tzu, the Four Cardinal Virtues offer a path to transcend habits and excuses, guiding you back to your original nature. The more you align your life with these virtues, the less control your ego has over you, allowing you to access the full power of source energy.
The first virtue, reverence for life, emphasises unconditional love and respect for all beings. Natural sincerityencourages authenticity and emotional honesty, embracing the mantra: “This is who I am, and this is how I feel”. Gentleness serves as an umbrella for forgiveness, acceptance, and love, fostering inner peace and harmonious relationships. Finally, supportiveness reflects selfless service to others, offering help without expectation of reward. I think by embodying these virtues, one cultivates a life of balance, compassion, and deeper connection to the world.
““Even after all this time, the sun never says to the earth ‘you owe me.’””