I think there are only two options: make progress or make excuses.
““Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses, and start making changes.””
Slow down
What game are you playing?
There is a distinction between seeking to have the right answer and building the capacity to generate the right answer, one is a short-term win and the other has a much longer shelf life. I think passing down wisdom, especially through oral history, is vital for preserving culture, maintaining and transmitting identity, values, and traditions. It allows us to learn from the past, offering lessons from previous generations' experiences while using historical insights to address modern challenges innovatively. Wisdom sharing also strengthens community bonds by fostering common narratives and understanding.
Holding a grudge
People are often more forgiving than you think; people forget. When someone makes a mistake, they remember the times they themselves sought forgiveness. To encourage empathy, simply ask them to reflect on their own experiences: "Haven't you ever made a mistake?" By helping others recognise that everyone makes mistakes, you humanise your error and create a pathway for forgiveness. I think this approach can absolve you of your wrongdoing and prompt others to give you another chance. When you learn to acknowledge and accept your own mistakes, you gain the strength to move forward, and no one can diminish that inner resilience.
The concept of ikigai
Japan is one of the world's most homogeneous countries, with approximately 98% of the population being ethnic Japanese. The Japanese secret to a long, happy, and meaningful life is “ikigai.” Ikigai is where your passion meets your mission, vocation, and profession. It is the intersection of:
What you love
What you are good at
What the world needs
What you can get paid for
It may be worth exploring
I fully understand that choosing me over an established market leader is risky. The fear of making a poor decision, looking bad in front of your boss, and facing repercussions because of your choice are all significant factors in the business-to-business decision-making process. This is why market leaders hold such an advantage: they represent the safe option. You can confidently tell your boss that you considered all alternatives but chose "X" because of their reputable background with prominent companies.
I think challenging this established procedure necessitates a thoughtful approach. While established market leaders are often seen as the safe choice due to their proven track record, this perception can stifle innovation and limit opportunities for new, potentially superior solutions. By daring to choose a less conventional option, you not only demonstrate confidence in your decision-making abilities but also open the door to unique advantages that the market leader may not provide. Embracing this challenge can lead to significant benefits and differentiation in a competitive landscape.
It never happens
I think that if you are not being creative, then you are not being fully rational. If you don’t allow room for the imagination, you’re not actually being intelligent; you’re only being logical. Truly robust and rigorous decision-making must involve a degree of mental experimentation.
Have you ever heard of a CFO asking the design department for their thoughts on the numbers in the quarterly forecast before presenting them to the accountants?
““Creative people must always present their ideas to rational people. Note this never happens the other way round.””
Back in the days
Before becoming president, Barack Obama engaged with Black culture by addressing themes such as cultural identity, racial inequality, and the importance of education and opportunity. He drew inspiration from historical figures and worked in African American communities, advocating for change through grassroots efforts and policy initiatives.
Do as you are told
The first time I heard that people don’t want to do anything which is not an assignment or things where they have to take responsibility for was in Denmark. When I dug a little deeper into the psyche, I realised that the first rule of indoctrination is that you are not supposed to know that you have been indoctrinated. And Danes have been indoctrinated from a very young age to be cogs in the industrial system. To do what the teacher says, to do the minimum or else your boss will take more, to try to avoid responsibility and look to the “authorities” for guidance of what to do. I think all of those things are baked into the culture from the day that our children are born in Denmark. Contact me via email to let me know your thoughts on the matter.
Throwback Thursday
I don’t think Black people are in the position to be racist because Black people do not have the power or control over the economy, politics, education, recruitment, housing, etc., etc. And if you are in doubt, please watch the “Jane Elliott experiment“ from 1968, it’s a 6 minute video.
““The denial of racism is essential for the survival of racism.””
A sad day for Denmark
Martin Kristiansen
The historic Danish Stock Exchange (Børsen) is burning. The building dates back to 1625, and is approx. 200m away from Denmark's parliament. It’s an extremely sad day for Denmark.
The real deal
Many people think vulnerability was a repellent, and I think it’s the world’s greatest magnet as it brings everybody to you. Nowadays, the greatest supply in the world is the opposite of vulnerability - it’s curating our lives on social media, and only showing the best parts of being successful and having picturesque holidays. On the other hand, the things that are in the highest demand are the things that we can relate to in 99% of our lives - the struggles, insecurities, doubts, etc. These are the elements in highest demand yet in lowest supply. When someone shares their struggles it increases oxytocin levels and we feel more connected to them.
““You cannot transmit something you haven’t got.””
The tip of the spear
Democracy is being able to speak your mind but with respect and without oppression. I think it's about persuading others through reasoned arguments and maintaining composure is crucial, especially the people in power as they should lead by example. When our government falls short in fostering such an environment, it falls upon us, as citizens, to counteract the polarisation that plagues our society.
““Never hold your head down, never say you can’t, never limit yourself, and never stop believing.””
The pathway to growth
c/o McKinsey & Company
Imagine growing up with the understanding that simply being yourself would be perceived as a problem. Subconsciously, you're constantly met with the message that what you have to offer holds no value. You're left with two options: conform to the existing norms and expectations, or take on the daunting task of building an entirely new framework from scratch. I think this persistent challenge shapes not only your perception of yourself but also your approach to navigating the world around you.
““To make difference in someone’s life, you don’t have to be rich, beautiful, or perfect. You just have to care.” ”
I can see clearly now
Your perspective is always limited to the extent of your knowledge. I think by broadening your understanding, you open doors to transforming your mindset. By delving into your true history can empower you, instilling boldness, and self-confidence. Not everything needs a reaction; instead master your emotions by training your mind to stay calm, think, and then act with purpose.
““If you cannot be corrected without being offended, then you will not truly grow in life.””
Understanding change
c/o LinkedIn
Understanding what we can change and what we cannot change in this world creates a wonderful harmony, because when we cannot do anything about it, then we just have to accept it. This is part of our life, and life is very imperfect and I am imperfect, I’m neither good or bad, I’m just a regular human being. And through this method of acceptance we can take giant steps towards a greater realm of happiness.
““God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.””
Kindness is not a weakness
In a world where cynicism seems to reign supreme, it's easy to adopt the belief that nobody does anything out of genuine kindness – it's all just a facade masking self-interest. This perspective paints a bleak picture where altruism is a rare commodity and everyone is simply looking out for themselves. Change, if it ever happens, is portrayed as a slow and agonising process, often met with resistance and reluctance. I think in this cynical narrative, the pursuit of money becomes the primary driving force, overshadowing any noble intentions or aspirations for a better world. It's a harsh reality where trust is a luxury and sincerity is viewed with suspicion.
Just an illusion
What is the illusion of objectivity?
In simple terms the “Illusion of objectivity” allows us to believe we are free of biases we recognise in others. For example, imagine you are in a museum looking at a painting with one of your friends, and each of you have a different opinion about what the painting means or how good it is. You might think it's amazing, while your friend thinks it's just okay. Now, imagine there's an art critic who's supposed to judge the painting objectively, meaning they should have no personal biases and just look at the painting for what it is. In reality, even though the art critic tries to be fair, they may still be influenced by their own experiences, preferences, or background. This is called the “Illusion of Objectivity” – the idea that something can be completely unbiased or neutral when, in reality, everyone brings their own perspectives and biases to the table, whether they realise it or not. So, remember even when we try to be objective, it's important to recognise that our opinions are shaped by who we are and what we've experienced.
We tend to favour affinity
Organisational preference occurs when a group of like-minded people who share similar backgrounds, values, information, and perspectives, embeds these traits into the organisation's policies, procedures, and practices. I think this tendency often results in favouring a limited set of norms, behaviours, and individuals, mistakenly perceived as the only "right" approach. The issue arises when organisations claim to value diversity but fail to embrace genuine change when welcoming individuals from diverse backgrounds. Instead, organisational preference continues a cycle of seeking people who closely resemble those already present within the organisation.
Egyptian Mythology
Satan held a meeting with the rest of his fellow devils to decide how to make mankind miserable. One of the devils suggested they take away man’s wealth.
Satan replied, “No, actually increase his wealth to increase his sins and his worries.”
Another young devil suggested to take away man’s brain.
Satan replied, “No, man cannot comprehend misery unless he has a brain.”
An old and seasoned she-devil said, “Let us steal his happiness.”
Satan looking convinced said, “Yes, that is it, that is man’s most precious thing, that will make him really miserable. But then they had to decide where to hide ‘happiness.’ One of the devils suggested to hide it deep in the ocean, another suggested high at the top of the mountains.
Satan said, “No, it’s a matter of time and mankind will invent something to reach and find it. The same old she-devil said, “Hide it where he will never look, hide it deep within himself, deep in his heart. Man will look for his happiness in wealth, glory, power, pride and joys of life and he will not find it there, because it is within himself.”
Satan bowed in respect for this old she-devil. Since then, man has been searching for happiness everywhere while it is hidden inside him.”
What role do you play on the team?
Reading people involves observing their behaviour, body language, verbal cues, and emotions to understand their thoughts, feelings, and intentions. The greatest advantage to possessing the skill of reading people is that it immensely improves our ability to communicate with them. Understanding is much deeper than knowledge, as it delves into the depths of comprehension, encompassing not just what is known but also what is felt and perceived. I think the thoughts and emotions of others serves as a cornerstone for achieving success, positioning us in a realm where empathy reigns supreme. While many may profess to possess knowledge about us, genuine understanding remains a rare gem amidst the masses.