Nature knows best

Do you tie your sense of identity to your achievements?

Many high performers do, often without realising it. Promotions, recognition, and external success can become the markers we use to measure our worth. Research shows that when we prioritise the external over the internal, our wellbeing suffers. I think the drive for achievement can easily blur into anxiety, self-doubt, and fear of falling short.

That inner voice , the one that questions your ability or tells you to hold back, often speaks loudest when you are stretching yourself. Yet, those same moments can be opportunities to grow. Learning to recognise and work with that voice, rather than against it, is one of the most powerful shifts you can make as a leader.

With the right tools, it’s possible to reframe stress from something threatening to something that signals growth, a challenge you can rise to and learn from. If this feels familiar, you are welcome to book a complimentary 30-minute discovery call to explore how coaching can help you strengthen your mindset and reclaim a healthier relationship with achievement. Book me…

““Never complain. Never explain.””

— Benjamin Disraeli

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Solving writer’s block

Writer’s block is often a symptom of something deeper, for example, anxiety. At its core, it’s the fear that what you are writing isn’t good enough. Anxiety is essentially wasting present energy on a future outcome you don’t want. When you expect your writing to fail, it becomes almost impossible to invest your full energy into it and sometimes, you can't even begin. If you or someone you know is struggling with writer’s block, the key is to change the internal narrative. I think the mental “movie” playing in your head isn’t working, so play a new one.

How? Ask better questions.
Instead of: “What if my writing isn’t good enough?”
Ask: “How amazing is my writing going to be once it’s done?”
Then say: “Congratulations – I did it.”

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Use this reframe

I think true leadership in relationships regardless of whether they are personal or professional will start with self-awareness. Therefore, the only real shift in any relationship begins with you. When you intentionally change how you show up, not to manipulate or fix, but to create space, you allow others to be who they are. That space invites honesty, reduces friction, and deepens connection. Instead of wishing someone were different, you get to decide how you want to engage based on your values and boundaries.

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